Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy, especially when it comes to your success at work. In fact, you’ll often find that it’s the little things holding you back – things you can easily change by altering your mind set.
Do any of these success-hindering factors resonate with you?
You’re Always Doubting Yourself
Sometimes when we doubt ourselves, we don’t even realise it. If you’re the type of person that doesn’t even try because you believe “I’ll never make it” or “I’m not on their level” – snap out of it!
Don’t let this little voice get the better of you. When you start doubting yourself you start believing that you won’t succeed, and those beliefs then become your reality. You’ll automatically stop yourself from doing well. What’s important is that you stop that voice inside of you. It’s now time to think positively about your abilities.
You Think Negatively
Did you know that most of our thoughts are negative? It’s sad, but true. What you have to start practicing is changing those negative thoughts into positive ones.
Here’s the secret technique: Every time you have a negative thought, make a concerted effort to replace it with something positive or an opposite ‘at least’ – something that will empower you instead of put you down.
Soon you’ll start seeing that all those positive thoughts are paying off.
You’re Afraid to Fail
There’s nothing wrong with failing – everyone falls a few times before they walk. At least you’re trying to walk!
The problem is when you’re not doing anything at all. The biggest mistake you can make is allowing your fear come between you and success. It’s just an imaginary wall that’s stopping you from getting to the other side – it’s really not real.
Break through it and you’ll see that your fear of failure was the only thing preventing you from reaching success. And you’ll learn a whole lot in the process too.
You’re Always Judging Yourself And Those Around You
They say that when you criticise others, it’s merely highlighting the insecurities you have about yourself. Also, you’re spreading tons of negativity (see point 2). Be a cheerleader, wear a smile, and celebrate everyone’s unique quirks, including your own.
Stop saying bad things about yourself and other people – it’s impacting their confidence and stopping you from achieving your goals.
If you put off doing what you ought to do, you will end up not having enough time to do it properly, or worse, never find the time to do it at all!
If it’s a promotion you’re after, sitting around doing nothing waiting for it to fall on your lap isn’t going to bring you closer to that goal. Even when the ball is thrown in your direction, you still have to move a little to catch it – how much more so for your dreams? All the excuses in the world won’t get you closer to your dream.
Get off your bottom and just do it. Full stop.
You Try to Please Everyone
Trying to always please everyone won’t do you any good. You run the risk of overworking yourself, not being appreciated, being taken advantage of, and never getting the credit! It’s just not worth it. Rather focus on yourself, your goals, and what will help you get there.
There’s nothing wrong with helping people, but ensure that you’re not shooting yourself in the foot. Remember: Sometimes you have to make decisions that not everyone agrees with – and that’s okay.
4 Outdated Beliefs That Are Holding You Back
Your mind is a very powerful tool. You can use it to better yourself in your career or you can allow it to hold you back. Don’t allow negative thoughts to get the best of you in 2016.
Here are 4 ways to prevent negativity from making bad career decisions for you:
Choose Your Future
Some believe that your past predicts your future. No. Not only does this outdated belief hamper your self-confidence, but it also reminds you of your past failures and the outcomes thereof. There will always be goals that you have aspired to and have not yet reached. But pay attention to what you are doing now and get it right. Make sure that you appreciate the here and now because that is what matters most. What is behind you simply cannot control your future.
Own Your Destiny
Some believe that you can only go as far as those who went before you. By believing this you set yourself boundaries that do not even exist. The truth is that one’s individual success is determined by the choices and hard work that is put into it. No two people will receive the same outcome if one is determined to reach higher goals in their career. So allow yourself to reach for success and then go for it.
Determine Your Success
Some believe that the approval of others determines your level of success. This is not true at all. Each individual has a set of parameters to measure success or failure by. Personal goals will determine one’s level of success. What you consider to be failure might be the next person’s highest level of success, and vice versa. Someone else’s opinion of your goals and achievements is not a true reflection of reality.
Some believe that it’s a straight line from the bottom to the top of the career ladder. Not so – in fact, many people fall off and climb back up several times in the course of their careers. There is no perfect picture of what the ‘top’ looks like. Compare where you started to where you are today and see how far you have come already. Enjoy your journey on the way up; don’t spend the time worried that it might not be as perfect as you’d hoped.
Why Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone Is Important
Sleeping, resting, chilling, cruising: we all yearn for a calm and easy life. We believe that being comfortable is good for us.
However, most successful people greatly disagree. Their experience has taught them that being uncomfortable is exactly the place where their potential thrives. Testing your limits, defying your boundaries, trying new things, putting yourself out there… that’s what takes you to the next level.
But people are usually afraid of failing and making mistakes and therefore opt to stick to exercises and activities that have known outcomes with little to no risk of embarrassment.
But That’s the Surest Way to Stay Stuck.
“I know this tastes lekker so I’m always going to order it.”
But there could be something even better in the menu if only you’d spread your wings.
“I know I do this well so I’m always going to do it. It’s better than falling on my face by trying something else.”
But what if you are better at the something else too?
The danger in always sticking with what is most comfortable is that you’ll always only know what you know. You’ll always experience what you’ve experienced before. No new opinions, no new memories, no new feelings, no new accomplishments, and no new nothing. This is especially true in your career, for example:
- Passing on the opportunity to do a presentation (thanks to your glossophobia) means your colleague will always get credit for work you can do too. That’s a missed opportunity.
- Saying no to extra work (because you think you’re incapable) means it’ll be passed to someone else that gets to grow their skill set instead of you. That’s a missed opportunity.
- Not sharing a new idea you have (do you think you’re too young/too new or that the idea will never work?) means that your superiors will continue overlooking your potential. You’re missing out on new opportunities.
In addition, because your manager knows that you are unable to confront your fears, they’ll stop offering you new opportunities all together. Have you ever noticed that there’s usually only one person in the office that seems to get offered all the new opportunities? It’s probably because they take the chances you’re too scared to take.
So, Scaredy Pants, here’s why Neale Donald Walsch’s “life begins at the end of your comfort zone” quote is so popular.
Growth Is at the End of Your Comfort Zone
- You learn something new
With each new experience, you’ll be able to see something in a way you’ve never seen it before.
- You’ll find out more about your strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes.
With each new experience, you’ll know why it worked, what will make it work better next time, and if you’d enjoy a career that enables you to experience that regularly.
- You’ll feel more confident.
Achievement, pride and the realisation that you didn’t die after completing an anxiety filled task, will make you believe in yourself so much more.
- You will get noticed.
If you put yourself out there, others will see you out there.
- You’ll begin inspiring people around you.
People will look at YOU and say: If she can do it then so can I.
It’s true that people generally do not like to roam outside their comfort zone. And that’s why most people aren’t successful. Outside is where we grow, learn, and develop in a way that expands our horizons beyond what we ever thought we were capable of doing. Don’t worry, you can fake it ’till you make it.
Take the first step out of your comfort zone by growing your skill set, applying for that promotion, climbing the corporate ladder, leaving the job you hate, and by finding better opportunities at a different company.
Courtesy of Careers24